{"id":445,"date":"2012-02-28T12:21:42","date_gmt":"2012-02-28T17:21:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coachesfinishingschool.com\/?p=445"},"modified":"2018-12-19T16:35:10","modified_gmt":"2018-12-19T21:35:10","slug":"effective-coaching-results-non-attachment-and-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lynallen.com\/effective-coaching-results-non-attachment-and-love\/","title":{"rendered":"Effective Coaching: Results, Non-Attachment and Love"},"content":{"rendered":"

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A coaching student just asked me how he could get his client to a potentially\u00a0 pivotal awareness.<\/p>\n

\u00a0There\u2019s a set-up in this question.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Anytime you find yourself asking how to \u201cget\u201d a client to a specific point, pay attention: <\/span><\/p>\n

This can reflect that you, coach, have already decided on some level where the client needs to go.<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n

\u00a0<\/em>But<\/em><\/strong> \u2013 you protest \u2013 what if I\u2019m trying to take the client to the outcomes she\u00a0 said she wanted?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Good question.<\/p>\n

The answer lies in attachment to outcome.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Just because your client identifies certain outcomes at the opening of the session, does not mean those outcomes are what will serve her best. That is simply what she sees at that particular bend in the road.<\/p>\n

\u00a0Remember the old adage: It\u2019s about the journey, not the destination?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Well as soon as you become attached to reaching the stated outcomes, you’ve limited what is possible for your client, including her awareness, her growth, and yes, even her outcomes.<\/p>\n

Being attached to outcomes, even for the sake of delivering “effective coaching,” will limit the discovery process, and therefore limit what is possible.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Remember: Coaching can take your client to outcomes far beyond what s\/he may have imagined.<\/p>\n

So what\u2019s a caring, committed coach to do? You want to deliver value, right?<\/p>\n

First, make a simple shift:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Stop trying to \u201cget\u201d or \u201ctake\u201d your clients anywhere and just be present with them in the journey.<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n

Learn to see the beauty that is possible when your client does not reach a desired outcome. This will free you up to be present in a far more intimate way.<\/strong><\/p>\n

To support you with this:<\/strong><\/p>\n