How to Avoid
The Dark Side of Goal Setting
Know when a goal is supporting you…
OR draining your time, energy, and confidence – and how to shift it.
Instant access • Self-paced • Just under 2 hours
You’ve been told goal setting is
essential for success right?
But if we’re honest:
You’ve set goals that looked right on paper… and still felt off
You’ve pushed yourself toward something… and wondered why it feels so heavy
You’ve followed through… but not felt the satisfaction you expected
Or you’ve found yourself circling, second-guessing, trying to figure out what’s missing
There’s a reason for that.
And it’s not a lack of discipline, clarity, or motivation.
There is a Dark Side to goal setting.
Not because goals are bad.
But because many goals are shaped by things we haven’t been taught to see.
- Unspoken expectations
- nternal pressure
- Inherited definitions of success
- Old cultural narratives
- The quiet habit of overriding yourself
And before you know it…
you’re chasing something that makes sense on the surface – but doesn’t actually fit.
The problem may not be your goal.
It may be what’s driving it.
Because when a goal is shaped by unseen pressure, it can drain your time, energy, confidence, and self-trust…
even when the goal itself looks perfectly reasonable.
The Result
You take on more than is yours.
You push harder than you need to.
You try to make yourself comply with something that was never fully aligned in the first place.
And you end up in a loop:
effort → pressure → frustration → exhaustion → reset → repeat
Not because you’re doing it wrong.
Because you’re working from something you haven’t been shown how to see.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
Get instant access and start seeing your goals differently today.
What you can avoid:
You can begin to step out of the hidden costs of misaligned goals, including:
Taking on too much — especially what isn’t yours to carry
Feeling split between responsibilities and what actually matters
Treating self-care like one more task on an already full list
Exhaustion, frustration, and second-guessing
Gradual loss of confidence and self-trust
There is an easy way to tell when a goal is life-giving vs. life-draining and how to rework that goal so it – and you! – get freed up from the Dark Side.
Take “Sarah,” for example.
Shortly after stepping into a new role with more responsibility and pressure, she said:
“Help me get more organized.”
That looked like the goal.
And we could have gone straight into systems and strategies.
But underneath…
she was feeling out of control and uncertain in a steep learning curve.
If we had stayed at the surface –
she would have kept chasing organization – without ever addressing what was actually driving the problem.
Once we shifted that…
everything changed.
More clarity.
More confidence.
Less pressure.
That’s how the Dark Sid works
It can keep you pursuing outcomes that don’t fully fit…
or saying yes to things that ask more of you than you realized.
Instead…
When you’re ready to stop losing time, energy, and confidence to that pattern –
That’s exactly what we address in this workshop:
A short, self-paced experience you can move through in one sitting –
or in pieces – whatever works for you.
You’ll come away with a clearer way to:
- recognize when a goal is aligned… and when it isn’t
- see what’s actually shaping your decisions
- and shift what you’re taking on so it starts supporting you again
This is for you if:
You’re doing what should work… and something still feels off
You’recapable and committed – but the effort feels heavier than it should
You’ve said yes to things that made sense… and later found yourself questioning them
You want to be able to quickly discern whether a goal is actually right for you
You want to spot when the Dark Side is at work – and know what to do when it shows up
You’re ready for goals that fit your life, not compete with it
What this Workshop will give you…
You’ll walk away with the ability to quickly discern whether or not a goal is actually right for you.
You will be able to spot evidence of the Dark Side at work, and know what to do when it shows up.
You will have a step-by-step process to help identify how aligned a goal is with what you really want.
Plus, you’ll get access to a bonus tool, that along with the other tools, can be applied immediately to any goal, objective or intention.
Imagine what can become possible when you…
Stop losing time and energy chasing goals that aren’t actually right for you
Break the cycle of second-guessing – and know where to focus your effort
Recognize what’s really driving your decisions – before you commit to them
Leave the “shoulds” behind and make choices that actually fit your life
Move forward with clarity and confidence — instead of pressure and doubt
Ready to leave the dark side of goal setting behind? You can, starting now, starting here.
Let’s get those questions answered:
Q: Lyn, can I use this for any goals?
Q: How can this workshop be helpful for me if I don’t like goal setting?
A: This is a great question, and relevant for SO many people. In the workshop, I give you a new framing of why goal setting has not been resonant for you.
This is addressed in the Q&A video portion of the workshop – because you aren’t the only person to have asked me this question. Spoiler alert: I think it’s your inner wisdom speaking to you, and in the workshop, I’ll say more about why this wisdom is so important for you.
Also, with the tools I offer you in the workshop, you can partner with that inner wisdom to have a more life-giving, life-affirming relationship with goal setting.
Q: How long is the workshop?
A: Total time is just under 2 hours, but it is broken into convenient bite-sized pieces, so any time you have a few extra minutes, you can jump back in. Because it is self-paced and the content is available for you 24/7, you can go into the workshop any time you like, as often as you like.
Q: What if you update the workshop; will I still have access?
A: Yes! By securing your access now, you will have access to any future updates in this workshop.
Q: Where is the workshop?
A: All content is conveniently located online, so you can access it 24/7 wherever you have internet access. Inside you will find :
–> the video modules
–> the downloadable Goals Worksheet
–> a couple of additional resources
The audio track is also available via a private podcast for easy access. After you register, you’ll receive an email telling you how to access the podcast.
Q: How do I access the workshop?
A: Click the Get Access Now button and you’ll be taken to the registration page.
After completing your registration, you will see a confirmation page, and shortly after, a confirmation email in your inbox with access instructions.
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