How to Avoid
The Dark Side of Goal Setting
Know when a goal is supporting you…
OR draining your time, energy, and confidence – and how to shift it.
Instant access • Self-paced • Just under 2 hours
Not productivity culture repackaged in softer language – but a fundamentally different relationship with goals, growth, and alignment.
You’ve been told goal setting is
essential for success right?
But if we’re honest:
There’s a reason for that.
And it’s not a lack of discipline, clarity, or motivation.
There is a Dark Side to goal setting.
Not because goals are bad.
But because many goals are shaped by things we haven’t been taught to see.
- Unspoken expectations
- nternal pressure
- Inherited definitions of success
- Old cultural narratives
- The quiet habit of overriding yourself
And before you know it…
you’re chasing something that makes sense on the surface – but doesn’t actually fit.
The problem may not be your goal.
It may be what’s driving it.
Because when a goal is shaped by unseen pressure, it can drain your time, energy, confidence, and self-trust…
even when the goal itself looks perfectly reasonable.
The Result
You take on more than is yours.
You push harder than you need to.
You try to make yourself comply with something that was never fully aligned in the first place.
And you end up in a loop:
effort → pressure → frustration → exhaustion → reset → repeat
Not because you’re doing it wrong.
Because you’re working from something you haven’t been shown how to see.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
Get instant access and start seeing your goals differently today.
What you can avoid:
Taking on too much — especially what isn’t yours to carry
Feeling split between responsibilities and what actually matters
Treating self-care like one more task on an already full list
Exhaustion, frustration, and second-guessing
Gradual loss of confidence and self-trust
There is an easy way to tell when a goal is life-giving vs. life-draining and how to rework that goal so it – and you! – get freed up from the Dark Side.
Take “Sarah,” for example.
Shortly after stepping into a new role with more responsibility and pressure, she said:
“Help me get more organized.”
That looked like the goal.
And we could have gone straight into systems and strategies.
But underneath…
she was feeling out of control and uncertain in a steep learning curve.
If we had stayed at the surface –
she would have kept chasing organization – without ever addressing what was actually driving the problem.
Once we shifted that…
everything changed.
More clarity.
More confidence.
Less pressure.
That’s how the Dark Sid works
It can keep you pursuing outcomes that don’t fully fit…
or saying yes to things that ask more of you than you realized.
Instead…
When you’re ready to stop losing time, energy, and confidence to that pattern –
That’s exactly what we address in this workshop:
A short, self-paced experience you can move through in one sitting –
or in pieces – whatever works for you.
You’ll come away with a clearer way to:
- recognize when a goal is aligned… and when it isn’t
- see what’s actually shaping your decisions
- and shift what you’re taking on so it starts supporting you again
This is for you if:
What this Workshop will give you…
You’ll walk away with the ability to quickly discern whether or not a goal is actually right for you.
You will be able to spot evidence of the Dark Side at work, and know what to do when it shows up.
You will have a step-by-step process to help identify how aligned a goal is with what you really want.
Plus, you’ll get access to a bonus tool, that along with the other tools, can be applied immediately to any goal, objective or intention.
Imagine what can become possible when you…
Ready to leave the dark side of goal setting behind? You can, starting now, starting here.
Let’s get those questions answered:
Q: Lyn, can I use this for any goals?
Q: How can this workshop be helpful for me if I don’t like goal setting?
This is addressed in the Q&A video portion of the workshop – because you aren’t the only person to have asked me this question. Spoiler alert: I think it’s your inner wisdom speaking to you, and in the workshop, I’ll say more about why this wisdom is so important for you.
Also, with the tools I offer you in the workshop, you can partner with that inner wisdom to have a more life-giving, life-affirming relationship with goal setting.
Q: How long is the workshop?
Q: What if you update the workshop; will I still have access?
Q: Where is the workshop?
–> the video modules
–> the downloadable Goals Worksheet
–> a couple of additional resources
The audio track is also available via a private podcast for easy access. After you register, you’ll receive an email telling you how to access the podcast.
Q: How do I access the workshop?
After completing your registration, you will see a confirmation page, and shortly after, a confirmation email in your inbox with access instructions.
About Lyn
For more than 30 years, Lyn Allen has helped leaders, entrepreneurs, and high-capacity humans navigate growth, stress, communication, and change in more grounded, sustainable ways.
As creator of The Peaceful Achiever™ approach, her work explores what happens when achievement is no longer driven by pressure, urgency, or self-abandonment – but by clarity, capacity, and alignment.
Through workshops, coaching, and speaking, Lyn helps people recognize the hidden patterns that quietly drain energy, confidence, and well-being – even when things appear successful from the outside.
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